i stole this from tumblr.

1.Do you want a boyfriend or girlfriend?

yeah no.

2.When did your last hug take place?

at november project!

3.Are you a jealous person?

i wouldn’t say i’m jealous over material things…but i don’t like to share people i feel like i have a claim on. *cough* boys *cough*

4.Are you tired right now?

surprisingly no, for the first time in a while. my sleep has gotten back on track and i started the morning with yoga and two cups of coffee.

5.Do you chew on your straws?

no.

6.Have you ever been called a tease?

i think so. did it bother me? no.

7.Have you ever been awake for 48 hours straight?

hell no.

8.Do you cry easily?

definitely.

9.What should you be doing right now?

writing a fake neighborhood newsletter for a lesson plan.

10.Are you a heavy sleeper?

not even remotely.

11.Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months?

i definitely can, it’s usually the other person who goes nutso.

12.Are you mad at someone right now?

mad  isn’t the right word…still deeply hurt and upset. i work hard not to hole on to anger.

13.Do you believe in love?

yes…sometimes more than others.

14.What makes you laugh no matter what?

sitcoms.

15.Who was the last person you talked to?

the guy who came to my job center. he was pretty legit and his name was bobby brown which amused me.

16.Do you get butterflies around the person you like?

mhmmm

17.Will you get married?

hopefully.

18.When was the last time you smiled?

while i was reading over my lunch break.

19.Does anyone like you?

haha yes…maybe more than i like them.

20.Do you secretly like someone?

no…i think many guys in the periphery of my life are cute but i don’t like anyone per se.

21.Who was the first person you talked to today?

my yoga teacher…6 am baby!

22.Who do you feel most comfortable talking to about anything?

my sister.

23.What are you NOT looking forward to?

ummmm winter?

24.What ARE you looking forward to?

the weekend.

25.Has someone of the opposite sex ever told you they loved you, and meant it?

yes.

26.Suppose you see your ex kissing another person what would you do?

well that pretty much already happened…the answer is get pissed, cry, complain to all my friends about it and move the fuck on.

27.Do you plan on moving out within the next year?

nope, i just moved and will hopefully stay in my new place for 2 years.

28.Are you a forgiving person?

i forgive passively very often…like for myself, i let go of resentments and forgive the person for hurting me. i rarely let people bnack into my life i’ve they’ve hurt me deeply.

29.How many TRUE friends do you have?

somewhere between 5 and 10 i would say…if i’ve learned anything it’s that friendship turn on a dime when they’re tested, even the ones you thought were the most deep and true.

30.Do you fall for people easily?

oh yes.

31.Have you ever fallen for your ex’s best friend?

nope. made out with him…yep…had feelings, no way.

32.What’s the last thing you put in your mouth?

my waterbottle.

33.Who was the last person you drove with?

my sister and brother-in-law in their ridiculous rental car.

34.How late did you stay up last night and why?

i think around midnight–i was unpacking and cleaning up, then read like a page before falling asleep.

35.If you could move somewhere else, would you?

maybe, if all the details were magically taken care of. i dream about DC…

36.Who was the last person you took a picture of?

myself if that counts…if not, my friend Hillary.

37.Can you live a day without TV?

i haven’t had a tv in months.

38.When was the last time you were extremely disappointed?

probably when i didn’t get a promotion i applied for…it worked out in the end though.

39.Three names you go by…

Alice. Shmal, Smelly (yes my friends call me Smelly…it’s short for Smelly Cat…i really have no idea why).

40.Are you currently in a relationship?

nope

41.What is your all-time favorite romance movie?

something’s gotta give, it’s complicated, when harry met sally and under the tuscan sun.

42.Do you believe that everyone has a soul-mate?

i don’t believe in soul mates, i believe in finding a great person/partner with whom you are extraordinarily suited for an compatible with.

43.What’s your current problem?

not enough money.

44.Have you ever had your heart broken?

oh yes.

45.Your thoughts of long distance relationships?

challenging, but sometimes worth it. i’ve seen it work.

46.How many kids do you want to have?

at least one, then we’ll see.

47.Have you ever found it hard to tell someone you like them?

in high school, yes.

 

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things I learned in this apartment.

On Friday I move out of the apartment I’ve shared with two of my best friends for two years. So much has happened to me in this place…I know I’m going to miss it when I’m gone, but right now I’m relieved to be moving forward and closing this chapter of my life. Here are a few of the lessons I’ve learned in Cambridge Manor.

if you need something in a relationship or life in general, or even just really want it, you have to ask for it.

people can really suck sometimes, but 99% of the time it’s not about you…it’s a manifestation of their issues.

I throw things when I get really really angry.

there’s a difference between being pissed at someone and not wanting to be friends with them anymore.

don’t trust a girl with no other female friends.

I still need my parents.

frozen pizza is the best study food.

everyone just wants a friend.

music really does sound better on vinyl.

people are selfish has sometimes have bad intentions.

cherish the people who are there for you when shit is rough.

yoga and meditation really do work–you can’t out party your problems.

love doesn’t come around very often.

my friends are awesome.

Cheers to the new adventure of trying to actually act like a grown up!

you play like a girl.

unless you’ve been living under some sort of internet-proof rock, you’ve watched (or at least heard of) this video, released by always, the lady product brand;

this is obviously part of a well thought out and put together ad campaign, designed to make more women by always products–as is the dove real beauty campaign. however, since i’m not made of stone, it totally got me teary eyed.

then, i was reminded of a comic my parents had up on the fridge while i was growing up.

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it appeared during the 1999 women’s world cup, so my sister and i were thirteen and ten respectively. she was always more interested in sports (soccer, softball, volleyball), while i showed a preference for fashion, dance and pretty things from an early age. example: when i was six my mom and asked me if i liked playing soccer, and i told her i liked the snacks, hanging out with my friends on the team and the fact that our uniforms were pink…clearly not an olympic athlete in the making.

but the message the video and the cartoon highlight is the same–doing anything like a girl is not something anyone should be ashamed of.  i was lucky enough to have parents who recognized that it was a message important enough to have their young daughters see it every single day.

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a few years ago, i stumbled across an article published by the huffington post called “How to Talk to Little Girls,” by Lisa Bloom, an attorney and legal analyst. Bloom writes,

I went to a dinner party at a friend’s home last weekend, and met her five-year-old daughter for the first time.

Little Maya was all curly brown hair, doe-like dark eyes, and adorable in her shiny pink nightgown. I wanted to squeal, “Maya, you’re so cute! Look at you! Turn around and model that pretty ruffled gown, you gorgeous thing!”

What’s wrong with that? It’s our culture’s standard talking-to-little-girls icebreaker, isn’t it? And why not give them a sincere compliment to boost their self-esteem? Because they are so darling I just want to burst when I meet them, honestly.

Hold that thought for just a moment

Teaching girls that their appearance is the first thing you notice tells them that looks are more important than anything.

That’s why I force myself to talk to little girls as follows.

“Maya,” I said, crouching down at her level, looking into her eyes, “very nice to meet you.”

“Nice to meet you too,” she said, in that trained, polite, talking-to-adults good girl voice.

“Hey, what are you reading?” I asked, a twinkle in my eyes. I love books. I’m nuts for them. I let that show.

Her eyes got bigger, and the practiced, polite facial expression gave way to genuine excitement over this topic. She paused, though, a little shy of me, a stranger.

“I LOVE books,” I said. “Do you?”

Most kids do.

“YES,” she said. “And I can read them all by myself now!”

“Wow, amazing!” I said. And it is, for a five-year-old. You go on with your bad self, Maya.

“What’s your favorite book?” I asked.

“I’ll go get it! Can I read it to you?”

…one tiny bit of opposition to a culture that sends all the wrong messages to our girls. One tiny nudge towards valuing female brains. One brief moment of intentional role modeling. Will my few minutes with Maya change our multibillion dollar beauty industry, reality shows that demean women, our celebrity-manic culture? No. But I did change Maya’s perspective for at least that evening.

Try this the next time you meet a little girl. She may be surprised and unsure at first, because few ask her about her mind, but be patient and stick with it. Ask her what she’s reading. What does she like and dislike, and why? There are no wrong answers. You’re just generating an intelligent conversation that respects her brain. For older girls, ask her about current events issues: pollution, wars, school budgets slashed. What bothers her out there in the world? How would she fix it if she had a magic wand? You may get some intriguing answers. Tell her about your ideas and accomplishments and your favorite books. Model for her what a thinking woman says and does.

(excerpted)

 

i immediately emailed the article to my dad, thanking him for always talking to me in an engaged, intelligent way, and for encouraging all of my weird interests when i was a kid.  my family went on an entire Abraham Lincoln themed summer vacation because i was THAT into him as a kid. THAT’S WEIRD. 

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because of the way my parents raised me, i’ve always known that my worth lays in my mind and spirit, not my face or my body.

because of that simple message, i’ve grown into an independent, capable woman who can take responsibility for her actions as well as stand up for herself. i know that the only people who matter in life are the ones who value my whole person, and not to settle for less.